Social development activities for 3 4 year olds
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Children naturally learn to socialize by being physically present amongst other children. But, what about when kids can't be with their peers due to illness or school closures? How can they learn social skills from home to guide them from kindergarten to college? Show
"Everyone can learn reading, writing, and math from home," says Jaclyn Shlisky, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist and mom of three, including a kindergartener who she homeschooled during the COVID-19 pandemic school closures. "While it's not ideal, it is doable, but social skills come naturally for kids through modeling and the experience they get when they're in a classroom setting and on a playground or interacting with other adults, like teachers." Read on to learn the importance of teaching social skills, and how to incorporate these lessons from home when your child isn't in school. How to Stay Busy (And Sane) While Kids Are out of School for the Coronavirus What Are Social Skills?According to the American Psychological Association (APA), social skills are learned abilities for interacting appropriately in different social situations. These include things like making friends, resolving interpersonal conflicts, communication, and regulating feelings and behavior. Around the kindergarten age, social skills become the building blocks for what kids rely on to help them navigate the world around them. These are a few of the big ones children learn in the classroom environment:
While people are not able to do all these things in isolation, parents can try to pick up the slack of what kids are missing by engaging in targeted play at home that can be just as beneficial to their social awareness. "Something as simple as having a virtual playdate with a classmate can teach your child so much," says Francyne Zeltser, Psy.D., a child psychologist on Long Island, New York. During a video call, kids have to make eye contact, wait their turn, and demonstrate the body language to show that they are listening. In this way, Dr. Zeltser says you can turn your day-to-day in-person and virtual interactions into teachable moments. But, teaching can be more intentional and activity-based, too. Below are some social skills activities you can do with your kids at home. Give them a try and have some fun with it too.
Perspective-TakingThis is an easy activity all about identifying the feelings and thoughts of others and you can do it when you are watching TV or a movie with your child, suggests Dr. Shlisky. Press pause and say to your child, "How do you think that he or she feels right now? What are they thinking?" Let your child respond and then you can also provide your own answer, "I think they feel scared because they are being chased" or "I think they feel happy because I see the rain is stopping and they can go outside." "It's important to let your child practice identifying the thoughts and feelings of others," Dr. Shlisky adds. You can also do this while doing role play activities or acting games. You can have a puppet show and have the puppets talk to each other about their feelings and thoughts. The Good Dinosaur, The Incredibles and Inside Out are great film options for talking through emotions and feelings. Character PlayGet out a bunch of character toys, like Peppa Pig or Barbie dolls, and have them pretend to talk to each other. Maybe you have a toy kitchen and your characters can pretend to bake a cake and have a pretend birthday party together. Use language like, "what do you say to a friend when it's their birthday?" Then listen to your child's answer and respond, "That's right, we say, happy birthday! I hope you have a great day today!" If your child is someone who jumps to the front of the line to help blow out the candles, take this time to role play with the character toys how the birthday child feels when that happens. "Use this game as a way to work on the things you feel like your child needs a little extra help with," Dr. Shlisky adds. 8 Ways to Instill Manners In Your Child Without Even Trying Taking TurnsEven for those who only have one child, you can still practice taking turns with your children. Take out a coveted toy that maybe only gets used on special occasions or come up with a unique item that your kids always want to touch, like the family Polaroid camera. You can give the item to one child and say they get to use it for five minutes and then set a timer and switch it over to the other siblings when their turn is over. Playing Board GamesWhile playing board games is probably the most obvious way to practice and encourage social skills, it's really the best bang for your buck. Dr. Shlisky says playing a game requires a lot of social skills including:
Some of the most popular games for optimal social skill learning are Candy Land, Jenga, Apples To Apples Jr., and Connect 4. But card games like Go Fish and UNO are also excellent academic games too. Dr. Shlisky advises making sure the game is age appropriate for your child—if it is too hard or has too many instructions, your child will get bored and give up and they won't absorb the skills you really want them to get from playing the game in the first place. So it's best to keep it simple and fun. 9 Multiplayer Video Games That Are Totally Fun to Play FaceTime or Virtual PlaydatesIt's a novel concept to "play" with a friend over your phone or a computer, but lots of social activities can be done simultaneously from inside your own homes and can give the same sense of "togetherness" your children crave. Coloring and arts and crafts are ways that your child can do something at the same time as their friend. They can discuss what they're working on with one another and will likely have side conversations, too. "When our children are on playdates at the park or during recess, they can be involved in group play without fully attending to or engaging with their peers; they can even be zoning out during conversations," says Dr. Zeltser. "Distance learning and virtual communication teaches children how to take turns talking, how to ask questions in order to be involved in conversations, and how to consistently use greetings like 'hello' and 'goodbye.'" Scavenger HuntsScavenger hunts can be done virtually with your child and their friend at their home or just with your child at home. Instead of telling your child to find items that are scattered throughout your house, come up with a riddle that your child has to solve with their friend. An example riddle might be, "I come in different shapes and sizes, can be found in the kitchen or the bathroom, and can be adjusted to be hot or cold, what am I?" (Answer is a sink!) Though it may take a little work on your end, your child and their buddy will have a chance to work on their cooperation skills with this game. "This is a great opportunity for your child to really work together with another person and come up with an answer as a team," says Dr. Zeltser. Would-You-Rather GameWould-you-rather is a silly game that lets kids laugh and let loose while using their imagination and creativity. Your child needs to come up with two goofy or outlandish statements, making you (or a friend who is playing virtually) choose an answer no matter how ridiculous the options. This game brings on the giggles but also encourages children to think outside the box and ask follow up questions. You never know what topic or feelings you might start discussing when you play this game! (Some favorites to start your kid off that could have interesting follow-up chats after the game is over are, "Would you rather be able to fly or be invisible?" or "Would you rather live in the past or in the future?") 63 Fun Questions to Get Your Kid Talking Read The Color MonsterIn The Color Monster, feelings are discussed as colors and each color gets a jar where it's kept so the monster can feel more at ease with all his mixed emotions. When you get to the page of the colors organized in jars, try discussing each color (yellow is happiness, blue is sadness, green is calm, for example) and saying what has made you feel "yellow" that day and then what made you feel "blue" that day. This will not only make it easier for your child to discuss their feelings (maybe they were scared to talk about something they heard on TV) but it can show your child that it's okay to recognize and feel many different emotions in one day—and that adults have the same range of emotions, too. (If your child was having a particularly rough day, this is usually a good time to take The Color Monster out at bedtime.) Problem-Solving With PropsThis one may take some planning. Gather up props like:
You can substitute for anything you don't have or things you do have around the house. Then direct your child to solve problems with the items they have in front of them. Some problem solving prompts can be: devise a slide for mini figures, create a jump ramp for cars, and build the highest tower you can. See where their imagination takes them! (Try this on a virtual playdate and see what your child and their buddy come up with on their own.) 5 Ways to Teach Children to Think for Themselves Balloon Keep-UpYou need a balloon for this one. Encourage your child to keep a balloon from falling to the ground without catching or holding it. (Add in some counting practice. Tell them to count how many times they have to keep it from falling before it hits the floor.) This is good to play with a sibling as they have to work together to keep the balloon safe. Telling Short StoriesThe skills practiced with this activity include listening, following directions, patience, taking turns, ignoring distractions, cooperating and showing empathy. First, create a stack of flashcards with story topics you'd like to discuss with your child. Some ideas:
Next pick a card, set a timer (two to five minutes) and tell your story. (Children who have trouble staying on topic, keeping focus, or giving too many details may benefit from this activity.) After your child tells their story, show you were listening by summarizing what they said and ask for clarifications to help them stay on track with their topic. Now is also the time to show your child how to show empathy (for example, "That must have been disappointing for you" or "I can see your feelings may have been hurt when your friend said that" if it fits the story your child told you). If your child needs a little more excitement to get started, do this through playing telephone cups for added fun. Play RestaurantPlaying restaurant is a great way to work on manners. Have your child be the server and you be the customer. Show your child how to order food by saying please, and saying excuse me if they burp at the table. Then switch roles. Bookworm WorkoutThis activity gets bonus points because it encourages your child to read at all times of the day (forget reading only at bedtime!). Pick a book with a word that's often repeated, like The Cat In The Hat or Green Eggs And Ham. Whenever the word comes up in the story (hat or eggs) your child has to do jumping jacks or push ups! This will encourage your kid to pay attention and listen—not to mention the physical activity too. 5 Free Online Learning Programs for Kids to Do at Home Show and TellDr. Zeltser suggests using this as an opportunity for your children to take turns showing off and talking about special items or people in their home that they would otherwise not be able to bring to school or on a playdate. Examples of unique home show and tells may include: What is the social development of a 3/4 year old?At this age:
Your child likes to play with other kids and socialize, but their relationships are still self-centred. They may act jealous and aggressive towards other children. They gradually learn to share and cooperate with others. They greet adults they know and say “please” and “thank you.”
What are examples of social development activities?20 Evidence-Based Social Skills Activities and Games for Kids. Staring Contest. Many children have trouble maintaining eye contact in conversation. ... . Roll the Ball. ... . Virtual Playtime. ... . Emotion Charades. ... . Expression Mimicking Games. ... . Topic Game. ... . Step Into Conversation. ... . Improvisational Stories.. What are social development activities for preschoolers?13 Social Skills Activities for Preschoolers. Playdates. Invite friends over for a playdate and take your children to play with friends as often as you can. ... . Group Games. Play group games that involve taking turns and following rules. ... . Board Games. ... . Fantasy Play. ... . Blocks. ... . Sensory Play. ... . Creative Play. ... . Reading.. What are some social development activities for toddlers?Play games with toddlers, such as taking turns jumping off the bottom step, kicking a ball or blowing bubbles. Taking turns is essential to good social skills. Play make-believe with stuffed animals and toys. Take turns telling a simple story with the animals or toys.
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